Don’t Let Fear Get in the Way of Your Dreams
Remember learning to ride a bike for the first time? I bet you were scared.
Remember that first date? Terrible butterflies.
Walking into a job interview with the hiring team sitting around the board table? Terrified.
Thinking about quitting your “secure” job and starting your own business? No way, too much of a risk.
Yes, fear can wreck havoc with our dreams, block us from moving forward and turn us into sputtering, sweat dripping, mind numbed creatures.
The good news is; is that we can learn to beat fear and put it in its place!
Fear is one of the most basic human emotions. It’s programmed into our nervous systems and works like an instinct. From the time beginning, we are equipped with the survival instincts necessary to respond with fear when we sense danger or feel unsafe.
Fear is useful too as it helps protect us by alerting us to danger. It prepares us to deal with the danger at hand. Feeling afraid is very natural — and helpful, in some situations. Fear can be like a warning, a signal that cautions us to be careful.
Like all emotions, fear can be mild, medium, or intense, depending on the situation and the person. The feeling of fear can be brief or it can last longer, turning into chronic worry and keeping us up at night.
The problem with this basic emotion is that fear can get in the way of when we strive to learn something new, or start a new undertaking that we perceive as risky.
Are You Standing In Your Own Way?
I know, I’ve been in your shoes. You have a dream, a grand vision of something that will happen “some day.” Maybe it is something that you’ve kept quietly to yourself, or that you journal about, or that you’ve incorporated into your dream board, or that you boast about.
But the sad truth of the matter is that your dream has not yet begun to take shape because you have not stepped in to your dream. It takes courage to step into your dream and make your dream come alive, but without beginning, you will never see it become reality.
Are you waiting until the time is right? Until you have more money, or until the kids are gone? Or have you discounted your dream and shut it down because you think you are too old, you don’t have that degree, you don’t look perfect…or maybe because you just might fail?
The truth of the matter is that there is no perfect time, no right time. Now! is the right time to step into your dream. Tell yourself no more excuses. The time is now. All the “what if’’s and “buts” are just fear disguising themselves as excuses.
Thought of the day:
“Master your Motivation” ask yourself: What is one small step I can take to step in to my dream?
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To Your Success!
P.S. Be sure to watch for our special offer on Friday that will teach you how to achieve your dreams without fear!
How Do You Get Over Your Fear?
Have you ever walked into a room full of strangers, perhaps at a networking event, and swear they could see you shaking as the sweat trickled down your back?
Have you ever been nervous about standing up and introducing yourself in a meeting?
Believe or not, it’s not only you who has felt that way, we all have!
The truth is that we feel our anxiety and our discomfort in uncomfortable situations far more than other people see it. People want to see us succeed, and are rooting for us, and are quite forgiving even if your nervousness is apparent. Why? Because they’ve been in your shoes.
We all heard the saying “feel the fear and do it anyway.” I like to remember the wise saying “fake it till you make it!”
The discomfort of something becomes less uncomfortable the more you do it. How do you get over your fear of public speaking, the 2nd most prevalent fear after the fear of death?
You do what I did, and learn as much as you can about public speaking or whatever you are fearful about so you know the mechanics of it, then put yourself in situations time after time after time where you need to get up and face your fear. Was I a worried they would see me being nervous? Absolutely. But the more I faced my fear, the more comfortable I became speaking in public.
Thought of the day:
Today ask yourself, what have you been avoiding because you have been fearful? Once you know, then you can begin the practice of becoming more comfortable.
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To Your Success!
P.S. Be sure to watch for our special offer on Friday that will teach you how to achieve your dreams without fear!
Finding Your Courage
Good morning friends,
The theme of the week is “COURAGE.” Be sure to watch for our special offer on Friday that will teach you how to achieve your dreams without fear!
“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”
~ Winston Churchill
Do know how good it feels when someone listens to you with all of their attention? When you can fully relax into a conversation knowing the person is truly hearing every word you say, and not interrupting?
When I was training to be a Life Coach 10 years ago, they taught us about the acronym of W.A.I.T. or better known as “Why Am I Talking?”
Good listening skills, whether we use them in our personal life with our spouse, with a sullen teenager, or a client, are one of the best tools you can you learn to do well. When you listen with your heart, and hear the emotions behind the words of your speaker, you get a great sense where that person is coming from and better yet, how help that person.
“Thought of the Day”
Become aware of when you are speaking where it might be much better to have the courage to sit down and really listen.
Who would you like to listen to better?
To Your Success!
The Truth About Isolation for Small Business Owners
Being a work-at-home entrepreneur can be a very lonely experience, especially if you’re an outgoing kind of gal. We all need people, acknowledgement and support.
Whether it’s through an online community, a networking group, a mastermind program, we all need at least one “safe spot” where we feel welcome, can let it all hang out and not worry about being judged, criticized, or taken advantage of. Just by their very existence, supportive groups and friends like these help us deal with the stress in our lives.
If you’re not lucky enough to have that kind of relationship right now, don’t worry. There are places that offer support for you from people who know your struggles and want to relish in your successes. Here are six suggestions of where you might go to find what you need to prop you up when you need it:
Online forums or blogs
Find an online discussion forum or message board for work-at-home entrepreneurs. There are literally hundreds to choose from! While these groups often refer business to each other, their biggest benefit, in my opinion, is the support they provide. Working from home can be a lonely business, and networking with others who are in similar situations makes it less lonely. It’s impossible to feel left on your own when there are so many people on these forums to cheer you on.
A coach or mentor
Finding a coach or mentor who is several steps ahead of you on the journey to business success can be one of the best moves you ever make. Though their main goal is to provide business guidance, the good ones are also a great source of support and motivation. They know the ups and downs of the work-at-home entrepreneur, and can tell you if what you’re experiencing are just normal growing pains, or something else. Best of all, they can help you devise a plan to deal with the stress you’re feeling.
Family
Don’t overlook your family as a source of support. They may have no idea what you do all day – particularly if it involves internet marketing – but they love you and want the best for you. If you tell your spouse or loved one you just need a non-judgmental ear to hear you work through some issues out loud, you’ll likely find that he is more than willing to listen. Give your family a chance to learn as you learn. You didn’t know what to expect when you started down this venture, and neither did they. Include them in your learning curve. Then you’ll have a family that feels a part of your process and will be more than willing to support you.
Real face-to-face friends
When you work from home, you can get locked to your desk and find that most of your closest friends live inside your computer! That’s just fine, as these relationships are fulfilling, supportive, and “real” all on their own. But there’s also something to be said for meeting a friend for a cup of coffee and some real live conversation. We need interpersonal interaction of the face-to-face kind, with the give-and-take conversation patterns that we humans are familiar with; the start-and-stop, ebb-and-flow, of our thoughts and opinions in a real live conversation. Don’t limit your contact with the world to Facebook, Twitter, and email. Connect with your “real-world” friends regularly.
A therapist or counselor
Trained mental health professionals are wonderful resources for objective, sound advice in dealing with stress. While they probably won’t be able to help you figure out the product launch strategy for your latest interactive course, they can help you find ways to deal with relationships, stress, and other negative mental emotions. Often, when voiced out loud to a trained professional as an outside party, a thought that’s been stressing you will all of a sudden make sense. Get a good recommendation from a friend, colleague, or your doctor and schedule an appointment if you feel that a professional therapist can help you deal with negative mental emotions.
A Mastermind Group
Mastermind Group is a small group of people who come together for a common purpose to share challenges and solutions. Generally, each person in the group gets their own designated time to talk about their current status and challenges, while the other group members give feedback, suggestions and solutions. This group can be over the telephone or in person.
For more information about Mastermind Groups, contact Jane at jane@janemorrison.com
WHAT ARE YOUR TIPS TO KEEP ISOLATION AS A SMALL BUSINESS OWNER AT BAY????
3 Easy Ways to Manage Your Workload
Do you find you often handle the simple things during the day, but leave the more daunting, yet vital, projects on the back burner?
I know it can be overwhelming to tackle a big project like write a newsletter, create a blog or website, or make an e-book or produce a teleclass. It’s human nature to handle the easy tasks first. But having a system to work on important projects, the ones that make you income and forward your business, will ensure that you’re consistently developing your business.
Here’s how I do it:
- PLAN: I schedule time for the project just like any other important appointment. I make sure that each project gets its own “project time” on my calendar. I treat that appointment as important as a client meeting. No cancelling, no putting it off. That designated time is when I work on that project.
- FOCUS: I clear my desk of distractions, even just making a pile of what’s there and putting it to the side, or if I find I really need a change of scenery, I leave my office and go to a place free of distractions. I find that when I’m at a specific place to work on a specific project, I am focused and inspired knowing I will not be leaving until I have been productive.
- REPEAT: Until the project is complete, I continue to plan, focus and repeat. Knowing your “why” – why are you creating an e-course, what will you do with the blog post once written, knowing why you are teaching a teleclass makes you more aware of your time and lets you assess if you are spending your time wisely.
Make sure you’re not wasting your time on projects that have no purpose. Be strategic choosing your projects, just don’t jump on the bandwagon and spend time creating a video because you read an article that says it’s the cool thing to do. Know your why, plan, focus and repeat, and by following this system you’ll be productive with your time and be spending your time on what really matters.
I’ d love your comments. How do you manage your workload and make sure you’re spending your time wisely?
Achieve your Dreams 2010
Hi,
It’s very early morning here in Big Lake Minnesota. I’ve let the new puppy Tucker out to do his business and fed the cats. My daily affirmations are said, I’ve taken my supplements with a big glass of water.
I’ve spent some moments in prayer and gratitude for all my blessings, I’ve revved up my positive energy, visualizing what I want and I’ve snuck a cup from the new pot of coffee barely finished brewing.
All the things I’ve done so far this morning have been conscious decisions. And that’s how to accomplish your dreams.
No matter what you want to do with your life, whether it’s to make a lot of money, find a career you love, start your own business, take your business to the next level or be in the best shape ever, you have choices and decisions to make that will lead you up to The Accomplishment (or not) of those goals.
1) Tiny baby everyday conscious decisions that add up over time. It’s the tiny baby decisions like “do I return that phone call right now?” or “what should I wear to the meeting?” or “should I eat that 2nd helping?” that prove to you how dedicated and mindful you are to your goal.
2) Then there’s the big scary decisions that make you stretch. "Do I apply for that job?" of "Do I join that health club? or "Do I raise my rates?" or "Do I leave the job I hate and start my own business?" The decisions that bring up feelings of inadequacy that makes you feel uncomfortable” or “I’m not good enough" or “what if I fail???”
It all has to do with your mindset. Mastering your mindset takes discipline. It takes awareness of what’s holding you back, of how you are getting in your own way. It takes courage, and it takes "feeling the fear and doing it anyway."
I have a passion to help people achieve their dreams. Here are seven simple tips.
Remember to:
1) Keep your eye (and mind) on the prize.
2) Say yes to yourself….You are worth it.
3) You are good enough. You can make it happen.
4) Take baby steps to just get started, this will give you momentum.
5) Tell someone out loud this is what you’ve decided to do.
6) Decide to spend time on it…what you focus on expands.
7) Get a buddy, a coach, a group to share with and keep you inspired.
Write to me to share your dream. Putting it out in the universe allows magical things to happen. What would you do if you knew
Warmly,
Jane Morrison, Coach, Author and Consultant
CEO, Morrison Business Solutions
Motivating & Teaching Women Smart Savvy Success, Because it’s your Turn to Shine.
How to FINALLY Conquer Procrastination
Have you ever wanted to get something done but kept putting it off?
Do you get frustrated by your own need to make things just right?
Do you start out and easily get distracted and never finish what you intended to do?
I’ve suffered from all these procrastination descriptions, and I guess I’m not alone, because according to the Procrastination Research Group at Carleton University, up to 70 percent of North Americans struggle with procrastination.
But I’m finally in a groove where I accomplish what I intend to do.
So how do we accomplish what we really want to do?
I’ll share my secrets and solutions with you, so you too can move forward with your dreams and goals.
Join me in this hands on seminar where you will finally figure out:
1) What’s REALLY important for you to get done
2) What is your “prominent procrastination” profile
3) The strategies and solutions you can use to overcome your suffering and guilt
4) Easy steps to cure your particular procrastination habits
5) What’s really getting in the way of your procrastination
This “Class in Action” that will provide powerful worksheets that we’ll use during the class to get to the heart of your procrastination. You’ll also receive personal coaching from Jane to be able to get the breakthrough you need to move ahead. .
If you are FINALLY ready to break free of your procrastination bad habits…..then join us to discover solutions that really work!
This class will be conducted by telesminar. That means you get to join us in the comfort of your home or office. All you need is a quiet place free of distraction, a telephone, and be ready to make some changes in your life.
Here’s an easy sign up link: http://janemorrison.com/events
Just call at the designated time (1:00 PM Eastern; Noon Central; 11:00 AM Mountain; and 10:00 AM Pacific) and enter your pin number. It helps to have a headset. Please call from a landline since cell phones can cause distractions.
If you’d like to join us, but cannot make the date, be sure to register and we’ll send you the recording and worksheets that you can do on your own.
DON’T DELAY, DON’T PUT THIS OFF
ANY LONGER…SIGN UP NOW!
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