Are You Hiding Who You Really Are?
We all want to fit in. We all want to be accepted, loved, and thought highly of.
Sometimes, we hide behind our true selves because of that need to be accepted. We’ve shut down our true authentic selves, and walk around smiling, pleasing people, not daring to say no when we need to, taking on too much, let people run over us, and not setting boundaries.
We aren’t assertive when we need to be, fearing that we might make someone mad. We don’t tell others how we really feel in a strategy meeting because our idea might not be a good one.
It’s time to love yourself, love your unique personalities, gifts and ideas, and let your light shine brightly. When my clients try to please everyone and provide service to a mixed target market, I work with them until they get clear on who “their people are.”
I tell them about the 1/3 rule: that a third of the people in the world will be your kind of people, you will connect with them right away, sharing a camaraderie and sense of shared values – you’re just like them and they are like you.
Then a third of the people and the world will feel neutral about you and you about them and that’s fine. And then there will be that last third of the people who rub you the wrong way, have different values, and don’t connect with you and you don’t feel a connection with them at all.
Once my clients understand the one third rule they take a big sigh of relief and give themselves permission to look for “their” kind of people. They begin to market to “their kind of people.” They feel more comfortable in being their authentic selves, speaking up when they need to, even firing clients who have been negligent in paying their bills or have been difficult to work with.
“Master your Motivation” ask yourself:
What unique and wonderful trait have you shut down in order to fit in; that you are NOW ready to let shine?
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To Your Success!
P.S. To learn more about how you can achieve your dreams without fear read my other article Don’t Let Fear Get in the Way of Your Dreams.
Finding Your Courage
Good morning friends,
The theme of the week is “COURAGE.” Be sure to watch for our special offer on Friday that will teach you how to achieve your dreams without fear!
“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.”
~ Winston Churchill
Do know how good it feels when someone listens to you with all of their attention? When you can fully relax into a conversation knowing the person is truly hearing every word you say, and not interrupting?
When I was training to be a Life Coach 10 years ago, they taught us about the acronym of W.A.I.T. or better known as “Why Am I Talking?”
Good listening skills, whether we use them in our personal life with our spouse, with a sullen teenager, or a client, are one of the best tools you can you learn to do well. When you listen with your heart, and hear the emotions behind the words of your speaker, you get a great sense where that person is coming from and better yet, how help that person.
“Thought of the Day”
Become aware of when you are speaking where it might be much better to have the courage to sit down and really listen.
Who would you like to listen to better?
To Your Success!
Are you comfortable at social or networking events?
I also meet many who look uncomfortable and hang in the background.
2) I try to be prepared. I make sure to bring business cards for the networking events, remember B-day cards for my gal pals at the social event, and at least get there in plenty of time for the other functions.
Jane Morrison, Certified Coach & Trainer, teaches success programs to women entrepreneurs. She empowers women to live their passion and effectively promote themselves. With their improved sales and marketing skills, they become the success they deserve. Let her help you make your dreams come true with confidence, courage and clarity of vision.
Look for her signature program “The Ultimate Step by Step Business Building Success Guide for Women Entrepreneurs” on her website, www.janemorrison.com
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