Monthly Archives: March 2010

Are you comfortable at social or networking events?

When I attend networking events, I meet many people who are outgoing and easy to talk to. 

I also meet many who look uncomfortable and hang in the background.
 
Honestly, I’ve been in both places, and my level of comfort has to do with a few different things I’ve listed below. 
 
1) Am I excited to be there?
 
• I choose to attend events where I will meet other people who have similar interests. I’m involved in a few business building networking groups, and I really enjoy talking to other entrepreneurs to see what they are up to. I also like to determine if I can be of service to them and how we might be able to connect on projects. Thinking about how I can help the other person, and asking them questions helps me be comfortable and best of all, allows me to learn about others. 
 
• I go to “social” events where I get to hang with fabulous women and laugh and share stories. I practice authenticity as much as I can, knowing that is a genuine way to make good friends. 
 
• I also go to a dog training group where Joe and I bring our 6 month old puggle, Tucker, for training. My motorcycle group includes rides with other outdoor loving bikers. My nature group meets monthly to observe the changes of nature. There’s also my yoga group. I’m also thinking of joining a Toastmaster’s group too….hmmm, will have to watch that activity calendar.  
 
2) I try to be prepared. I make sure to bring business cards for the networking events, remember B-day cards for my gal pals at the social event, and at least get there in plenty of time for the other functions.
 
3) I adjust my attitude. Yes, there are days when I just don’t feel like going. But if I put on an outfit I feel great in and remember why I’ve chosen to be part of this group, I renew my excitement level and have a good time.
 
What tips can you share that help you be more comfortable in networking or social situations?
 

Jane Morrison, Certified Coach & Trainer, teaches success programs to women entrepreneurs. She empowers women to live their passion and effectively promote themselves. With their improved sales and marketing skills, they become the success they deserve. Let her help you make your dreams come true with confidence, courage and clarity of vision.

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Get Focused and Prioritize to Move Ahead

“I feel like I have ping pong balls bouncing around inside my head” said my coaching client the other day.  “I just don’t know what to do first or where to start, so I just keep bouncing from one thing to another, and never feel caught up”.

Her experience of overwhelm is very typical of people these days with so much going on. It’s a stressful and uncomfortable place to be.

Lack of focus is very distracting, and is a huge time robber. With lack of focus comes chaos, clutter, disorganization and negative and frustration feelings about oneself or obligations.

Here’s a little exercise I do with my clients to help them regain focus, prioritize and feel more at ease, less stressed and excited once again about their projects.

1)    Do a “brain dump”. On a blank sheet of paper, write a list of everything that “needs to get done”.  You’ll find that some of it is work related (change my website copy) and some is personal related (take the dog to the vet for his shots).  No worries,  just get is all down on paper. With it on paper, you can begin to let go of the sense of urgency and overwhelm that storing all these “to-do’s” in your head has caused.  You’ll feel more in control and can breathe easier.

2)    Now that you can see what’s on your plate, take a look at the list.  I like to separate personal from business, and then begin to prioritize.

3)    What tasks are “URGENT” and need to get done right away – by urgent I mean that there are huge negative consequences to them, (financially, legally, etc).  Mark those with an asterisk. 

4)    Note what’s left on your list. You’ll notice that there aren’t as many URGENT tasks as you thought.  Now you can see the reality of your list, and put the other items in order of importance, from “important” to “nice to do’s but not so important”.

Your list might tell you that you’re a creative thinker, and you’ve placed more on your plate than you really have time to tackle.  It’s OK to let some things go, in fact, I advise it.

Your list will also show you how you may be involved in too many activates, and you need to learn to say “no” or set better boundaries.

My last piece of advice to you is to remember that YOU are the foundation of your success, and if you stop taking care of yourself, body, mind, and spirit, you’ll feel overwhelmed more easily.  So even though you “might not feel like you have time”, be sure to put YOUR NEEDS on that list of things to get done.

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Enjoy the Things that Matter Most

Sometimes I find myself running from task to task, trying to get a lot done, trying to make the most of my time. It’s easy to forget to enjoy every moment of life, and to live in the now.

I had the opportunity to attend a gala fundraising event Friday night. Dressed up more than usual, I enjoyed this black tie affair aimed at celebrating life for cancer survivors, celebrating life for those who have passed from cancer, and fundraising to build a holistic center for women undergoing cancer treatments.

I’m so impressed with the courage and strength of women (and their loved ones) who have been touched by this disease.

This motivational message I received last week from the Universe reminds me to enjoy every moment of everyday and live in gratitude. Life is a gift not to take for granted.

"I’m often asked, "Being the Universe and all, "What’s the purpose of life?" But truthfully, no matter who or what you are that’s a pretty daunting question. So daunting, I’m invariably compelled to reply with a few questions of my own:

"Do you mean besides having fun? Besides learning that the world has always spun in the palm of your hand? Besides bicycles, long walks, and hot chocolate? Besides holding hands, giving hugs, and drying tears? Besides having a dream and making it come true? Besides February, Fridays, and Polar Bears? Besides witnessing miracles that only you are privy to? Besides sunrises, sunsets, and every rare and fleeting moment in between?"

Daunting is an understatement.
The Universe

Thoughts become things… choose the good ones!
(c) www.tut.com (r)

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